Season 5 – epiBLOG 6:
How’s your relationship to money? Or better yet, what is your relationship with money? I know – those are weird questions, right? Over the course of the past year, I’ve been asked forms of these questions individually by a business leader and within a group setting in seminars. I even read a book called The Sedona Method by Hale Dwoskin that posed the same types of questions. It made me think about how I am with money in my own life.
I never thought about having a relationship with an object before last year. When we think of relationships, we instinctually think of a romantic interest. Or maybe our relationships with our parents, our siblings, our children, or our distant relatives.
When we think of relationships, emotions are attached with those relationships. Love, joy, anger, bitterness, frustration, jealously, etc. However, as human beings, do we not get emotional when it comes to money? Do we not experience those same feelings? When we have money, we’re happy. When we need it and don’t have it, we worry and stress about how to go about getting it.
Artists are a special breed of human. We create our art. Get annoyed with rejection. We try to make money doing our art to prove to ourselves and the world at large that we can. Yet we find ourselves being afraid to ask for money as if we subconsciously don’t deserve to be paid for what we’ve created.
What’s that about?
Today’s topic is on developing a healthy relationship with money as an entrepreneurial artist.
My relationship with money specifically comes from the world of, or the perspective of, “there isn’t enough.” Even when I find that I have enough money to pay all of my bills, I worry that there soon won’t be enough to pay them. How ridiculous is that?
I spent a lot of time last year working towards eliminating that mindset because it’s counterproductive to what I’m working to accomplish. I’m a full time writer – people pay me to write for them. I love writing. I love helping people. The fact that I’m getting paid for it allows me to continue to write for a living instead of choosing to pursue any other money-making options that exist today.
I have to continually remind myself that I am enough and that there is enough money out there for me to continue to make a living doing what I love. What is your perspective about money? Think about it and sit with those thoughts for a while. Below I have compiled some tips that I’ve found helpful to keep my mind focused on what’s important to my success as a writer.
HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP TIPS WITH MONEY:
- Read The Sedona Method by Hale Dwoskin, specifically paying attention to Chapter 16 “The Wealth Builder.”
- Be honest and authentic with yourself about what you’re passionate about within your career and the areas/markets where you would like to make a living. The more authentic you are, the more you will find yourself progressing in the direction that you desire. Pretending to want to do something that you have absolutely no interest in will stop you from moving forward as an entrepreneurial artist because people aren’t attracted to inauthenticity. Your potential clients are drawn to authenticity, and will gladly pay you for your services when they feel connected with you.
- Find a mentor, business coach, or business strategist that is already financially successful. Hire them. Learn from them. Absorb everything you can to learn their money mindset. They are doing something that you are not doing. Remember, you don’t know what you don’t know. Learn from those who are where you want to be.
- Pay attention to your current relationship with money. Is it self-defeating? Healthy? Do you get anxiety when you think of paying bills? Are you afraid to get a lot of money because of what you might do once you receive it? Is your mindset conducive to what you’re looking to gain out of your career? Don’t make yourself “wrong.” Just observe how you experience money in your life. Acknowledge whatever that experience is.
Today’s LESSON is to simply acknowledge where your relationship is with money and to where you would like that relationship to be in the future.
FUN ASSIGNMENT: Read Chapter 16 “The Wealth Builder” in the book The Sedona Method by Hale Dwoskin. Write down your responses to the questions that he poses so that you can take a look at how you’re really experiencing money.